A mathematical solution to the door holding problem

December 11th, 2008 by Brianna

It seems strange that such a simple custom as holding a door open for someone should cause as much trouble as it does. It started out as a highly gendered, benevolent sexist activity (men holding doors for women). Later, feminists began to reject the door holding custom along with many other benevolently sexist actions, leading many to refuse to allow a man to hold a door for them at all. More recently, door holding seems to be a relatively gender neutral activity, with women and men holding doors for each other, irrespective of gender. (Except in a dating context…)

So – common courtesy, or sexist holdover? I know almost nothing about etiquette, but the scientist part of me has come up with a rather different solution…
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Update on the gun nut chick

November 15th, 2008 by Brianna

A while back, I wrote about these gun-crazy families that I know.

Today, the oldest daughter (the one who’s hot for Sarah Palin) asked me what I thought about the election results. I responded – vaguely – that I was happy about some things, and unhappy about others (I didn’t mention what I was unhappy about…)

She was obviously very unhappy about the election, and informed me that she celebrated election day by buying a Glock!

Lovely.

Now, most of the ultra right-wing conservative types I know don’t like Obama for one of two reasons. Either they don’t like his position on abortion, or they think he’s a socialist.

Not gun-nut-chick! She doesn’t like Obama because she thinks that he’s going to take everyone’s guns away. Of course, Obama doesn’t really think that, but try to tell that to her! She ended up asking me what I thought about gun control, and I replied that I thought it was okay if people owned guns for hunting and self-defense (properly licensed, of course), but that it really didn’t affect me personally, because I didn’t feel like I could ever take a human life, even in self-defense.

And she came completely unglued! She just couldn’t believe that anyone could possibly not want to defend herself with lethal force. She couldn’t fathom the idea, that perhaps her life is no more or less valuable than someone else’s! And she can’t even began to understand the complexities of real self-defense. (Trying to explain to her that most sexual assaults are committed by someone known by the victim, for example, only leads to angry denial or blank stares!)

So, now, she’s mad at me – because I don’t want to kill someone!

Sigh…

The US contains Great Insanity: Militants

October 11th, 2008 by Brianna

Most people have heard about paranoid, fundamentalist, my-home-is-my-castle militant people. You know, the type that lives on a farm and stockpiles food and ammunition. Some of them are insane anarchists, some are just afraid of the government or Y2K, and some are actually cult members. Some of them are just individual families, and some are entire groups. But there aren’t very many of them, and they’re pretty crazy. They shouldn’t be hard to recognize. They’re certainly not something that most people should have to worry about.

Right?

Right?

Wrong.

Now, I live in the Midwest. I have talked to a few number of people from the coasts who seem to think that the Midwest is full of crazy, gun-toting idiots, but I can assure you that this is not the case. Sure, people here are a bit more conservative than elsewhere (well, much more in some areas..), but are generally quite sane and reasonable. Or so I thought…

Earlier today, I was conversing with some friends. They’re quite typical evangelicalish Christians – pretty much par for the sort. I had thought that the oldest daughter of one family was even rather feminist leaning – in any other family she would certainly have been an activist type. And all of them are intelligent, not bigoted, not obsessed with silly obsolete church rules. Fairly reasonable people, I had thought.

During the course of the conversation, she (the daughter) was telling a funny story, and casually mentioned that they were carrying pistols at the time. I thought that this seemed odd, and asked, if they were hunting at the time. She responded that they always carried pistols – it was part of their ‘family security’.

I was rather… taken aback, to say the least. It wasn’t just her family, either. On asking more questions, the situation became clear: It seems that after 9/11, a large number of otherwise normal conservative families became scared for their safety. Rather than cowering in fear and voting for Bush, they bought guns for every person, and started acting like insane anarchist militants (And they still voted for Bush, too…)

They call it ‘tactical living’, I believe. This ‘tactical living’ includes training every member of the family to use a pistol, running an endless variety of emergency drills, creating protocols for every situation to ensure security, and generally assuming that people are always trying to kill them, and making sure that they shoot them first.

Sooner or later, someone’s going to get shot. And it won’t be a terrorist.

Now, I’m actually in favor of private ownership of weapons (with limitations, of course), but these people are utterly insane. The strangest part, though, is that they are not like the stereotype of insane militants. They’re just ordinary families who have reacted to the post 9/11 world by arming themselves. It’s not just an isolated case, either – it’s a growing movement, according to my friend.

I don’t really have an overall point to this – don’t trespass, I suppose – but mostly I was just surprised and shocked at all of these people, who are so prepared to kill for whatever reason.

An Aside:

They all just love Sarah Palin. I suspect that her penchant for hunting is the overriding consideration. The aforementioned daughter, particularly, has a rather obvious repressed-lesbian crush on her. It’s quite frightening, really.